CHOOSING A MENTOR/COACH! PART TWO!

A lot of people find it very difficult to choose a mentor and a lot more don't even have one. For you to be successful, you must be accountable to someone. Someone you can report all your excesses to, someone who can call you to order. But you must also understand you can't just choose anyone to mentor you because I asked you to get one. So let's look at the steps on how to choose the right mentor. Read Part One

What skills do the mentee and mentor need?

1: Basic competencies for mentors and mentees

·       Communication skills to articulate problems and ideas

·       To listen and to challenge constructively

·       The ability to be honest with oneself and the other partner and to reflect upon what is being said, both at the time and subsequently

·       Capacity for empathy

2: Ten core competencies of Mentors to a Mentee

·       Knows what I am talking about

·       Not intimidating, easy to approach at any time

·       Interested in me (the mentee) personally, genuine concern

·       Provides subtle guidance, but ensures I make decisions

·       Actually questions me

·       Willing to debate / challenge me

·       Will give honest answers

·       Must accept blame, stays neutral before solution

·       Is enabling, caring, open and facilitative

·       Gives constructive and positive feedback

Benefits of coaching and mentoring

In a study, by researchers Garvey and Garrett-Harris 2005, it was found that the benefits of mentoring to mentees were:

·       Improved performance and productivity

·       Career opportunity and advancement

·       Improved knowledge and skills

·       Greater confidence and wellbeing

Choosing a mentor

Mentorship works best when mentees have been provided with enough information to make the selection themselves, and the person is not their line manager.

If your first choice of a Mentor does not work for you, you can choose another Mentor without giving a reason.

DEVELOPING REFLECTIVE PRACTICE

The below sheet will provide a framework which may be useful to help you organize your reflections from your mentoring sessions. 

Developing reflective practice in mentoring for mentee and mentor

This framework may be useful to help you organize your reflections when choosing a mentor.

Concepts, ideas, frameworks which seem relevant / useful to me:

Insights about my personal self

Insights about my professional self

Insights about my role

What I could do differently

What I could experiment with

Other thoughts and feelings

Adapted from the work of Lynne Freeman (1999).

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