MY MARRIAGE IS MY GREATEST MISTAKE!

Dear TOLD Readers, Femi realized too late because to him it was love even though the signs were obvious! Remember this is a True Life Stories from our counseling Sessions with hundreds of people weekly, via One on One, Facebook, Twitter, Whatsapp, Email etc, stories we share here are with their permission. The only thing we change is the person's real name and address. In this case Am sharing exactly what he sent. Please take your time to read so you understand his story.

My name is Femi Salako, my age is 43. I'm a health aide staff and a chauffeur, presently I'm residing in Canada, I have a story to share and I need advice! My story can be shared on AIR or on your blog so that no one should marry out of pity, it never ends well. Location, age but not my name because of my kids, I got 3 kids, 2 boys and a girl.

I lived in Netherlands for 16 years, and I met a woman in Netherlands, she's from Benin while I'm a Yoruba. This woman is sweet but too strict, her name is Osas. She's so arrogant and non appreciable but I'm so much in love and at the same time she's carrying my first child. But I let all GO because of love I have for her. My Mom is always skeptical about our relationship because she's Benin and of course her experiences in life, she added. But as a young lad, in love, nothing else matter.

When we met.. She got no papers but she kept it to her self until we deep, I have asked her but she never reveals. Later when I discovered, she's already carrying my child. I sought for help in neighboring country, Ireland. She's staying with my friend and we had it planned that in 14 months, I'll got my Dutch nationality and I got her married in Dublin, Ireland.

Few weeks later a new law introduced in Ireland 2004 that whoever have child born before January 01-2005. Her child will be automatic an Irish. God favored us, she had our baby 29-12-2004, no caesarean or induction, just naturally. God is good.

After that.. I got my European passport we did our white wedding in Dublin year 2007 and while traditional wedding was done since 2003. I bought her everything money could buy, I repeat everything.

But that arrogance now is full developed and know no boundary. She's now insubordinate and whatever she say is the final. Ever since she moved to Dublin in 2004, she refused to relocate back to Netherlands. She got her European passport, she got her diploma but she don't want to move together with me. We fights a lot over that, I thought I won in 2013, she moved to Netherlands.

That was the worst mistake I did because the same year everything scattered, she will house without no notice. She wouldn't talk to me for months. I consulted her parents but to no avail.

We divorce following year, that was 2014 with my efforts. Ever since then, I have been to my self. Not till 2015 August, she asked me to contact her family to take the bride price (dowry), exactly two days later she begged and want a second chance. I considered my kids and obliged.

After our separation I relocated them to Canada because that was our agreement because we separated. In August 2015, she asked for second chance as I said earlier but since I joined her in Canada her behaviors is more worse. Nonchalantly attitudes is her pride.

Her family is aware of all these though and I can tell them anything anymore before I feel like a nuisance before them! Why? Because since 2004 till date, is always complaining from me to the family.

Now I want to move ahead finally. At the moment, she don't utter a word to me and we are living in the same flat. I want to relocate back to Netherlands or to America where my relative lives.

That's the situation I'm in. We don't even talk. Except greetings, like good morning, goodnight and those

She always sleep in living room since 2013 while I sleep on bed.. And she hate it when I used this word 'I love you'

Sex happens when I make frantic efforts. I mean we are having sex maybe 5-7 per year. She never asks for it, direct or indirect. It's a struggle

Our Kids are good! I'm showing them love and I get that back from them. The 2 boys know what's going on. You can be mad at me, call me names, yes I deserved that but I did what I do out of love, pitiful and for my kids.

If I should send your some of the text she sent me why living apart! You'll condemn me more.

It was too late before I realized all these.

Note: We keep saying LOVE isn't enough oh!

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