COMPATIBILITY: GOALS/VISIONS & EXPECTATIONS

Lastly, we will be looking at Goals/Visions and Expectations in the area of compatibility. We have talked about: ARE YOU COMPATIBLE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE? Read HERE COMMUNICATION MANNERS Read HERE! We covered the Visual Person, the Auditory Person and the Emotional person.

This is an important are to also consider when looking at compatibility. You must talk about your Goals/Visions and Expectations when you're in a relationship or married. Both have to identify their Goals/Visions and Expectations and discuss at length about each. One of the importances of Pre-marital and Post - marital Counseling, it helps you identify them. By doing this it helps you see where the marriage is headed to.

Firstly, you have to write down each of your Goals/Visions and Expectations on a paper, make it a minimum of 20 for your potential partner or spouse. After making this list, answer the following: (these questions are only applicable [or maybe very useful] to those courting engaged to be married).

• Do you both have expectations in that area?
• How are these expectations alike or different?
• Do I have same for myself or fiancé?
• Whose expectations are often met and why?
• Whose expectations are stronger?
• What is the origin of your expectations? e.g. Church, mosques, books etc
• Are my expectations more worthy of fulfillment than my fiancé?
• Do all the people around have same in a given area?
• Do I have a right to my expectations?
• Am I obligated to live up to my future's spouse's expectation?

Now take each of your expectations and answer the following:

• Is this expectation I have of my fiancé supported by objective reality?
• Is it objectively true that he or she should act this way?
• Is my spouse's expectation in anyway hurting, and slowing my own fulfillment? 
• Is this expectation essential to the achievement of any of my goals for my marriage?
• What does this expectation do to my future spouse's perception of me?
• Does it help me achieve the kind of feelings I want from my spouse and me in marriage?

Evaluating every of your your Goals/Visions and Expectations is a good way of driving out the difference that could tear you apart. This include, you kind of food, how you spend your time, neatness level, dressing, what you likes and don't, everything, I mean EVERYTHING.  This gives you a sense of direction, these are not what will be but what you wish to attain. Read the Big Picture for more, HERE.

You must understand your Purpose in all these before you get married, and if your married and yet to discover your purpose, its not too late, Purpose is life and its endless. You and your spouse to-be must take out time to do this. You don't have to have the same purpose in life to be successful in marriage. But you must support your spouse's vision to succeed in yours.

So take your time and do this, before you mess up. And if your in it already, take a pen and paper and do same, talk to your spouse about it and begin the new year with plans and goals and visions.

We wish you all the best!

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