Good morning love doctor, my name is Monique, I stay in Agric,am d only child of my parent, I am 21 yrs old, am 8 months pregnant, and since i got pregnant my boyfriend has abandoned me.
He is in his final year presently, and has really changed to me, at first he denied d pregnancy, until it was settled by one of his late dad's friend who is a lawyer. Due to this pregnancy I had to differed a session in sch cos I study Human kinetic(sport and health), no caring from him, no financial support, though his mum explained to my parents that she is presently on a loan, she has been the one catering for him and his 2 siblings since their dad died.
I know I have made a great mistake by giving myself to a guy i wasn't married to,and i keep begging him every day to let continue d way we were before i got pregnant all he says is he will change.
But he is not changing, please i need your advice, though what i really concluded in my mind is after giving birth am going back to school, facing my education because am even too small to start thinking about marriage.
Am sharing this because I want to know people's view about what I should do.
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first accept the fact that you are a single mom already.....you can get yourself registered for anti-natal it is cheaper in the general hospitals, and have your baby...if your families and friends are willing let them take the baby from you, so that you can go back to school if they are not, then my dear u either give up your education for the sake of your child(orphanage) for the sake of your education because it is easier said then done.....you don't have to worry at the end you will triumphs if you put your heart to it... i myself became a mother at 19 it wasn't easy but i pulled through...cheers
ReplyDeleteCHANGE is the most constant thing in life, your last paragraph is exactly what i feel you need to do. Hence, concentrate on your studies and future after giving birth to your baby. It will be more disastrous if you can't complete your education cause he is already in his final year like you said earlier. Hopefully, if he comes back to his senses, he would apologize then you can both move on with your life together otherwise the right suitor (man) will come else. Don't worry, be happy !
ReplyDeleteLol. In every family there's always a rebellious child . But the only thing is that she'll learn d hard way since she refused learning d easy way
ReplyDeleteMy dear girl.. Just be strong. Keep the pregnancy. It has already happened. Stop seeking for his stupid love. But all l would have loved is for parents love and care. Go to them and ask for forgiveness. And l believe they will be there for you. Keep tat child because you don't know tmoro. That child will be a source of joy to you in future.
ReplyDeleteYesterday Night we chatted with her and she sent this "What really bothering me is my mum and dad divorced when i was 5 years, and they have both remarried to another person. But both dont have other children. Am the only child of both parents. I dont want mine to be like that" this guy is 22 years old in 400 level. Well its obvious why she she pushing the guy.
ReplyDeleteWell, what you have decided is the best thing. Go back to school and build your life. You don't have to beg for his love. Love yourself first. Can your mum care for the child while you are in school?
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