EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION IN RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE!

Communication in Relationship/Marriage is a major issue we have. People tend to ignore a whole lot meant to be said or heard. We have handled relationships/Marriages that almost crashed because of lack of communication. It was You talk, I talk back, not you talk, I listen, and I talk you listen. Communication is a two way thing.

Let look at how we can improve on communication in our Relationship/Marriage.

First, we must understand that Communication is an act of conveying or passing of information, whether it is physical, spiritual or emotional.

There are two major ways of communication:

Verbal (Word)

Non – verbal (Action)

When communicating verbally you MUST take note of the following:

·    Environment should be comfortable and conducive for the purpose of the communication.

·               Be open minded and concentrate on the main reason of the meeting.

·               You must be prepared to listen.

·               You MUST be undistorted by emotions or personal bias.

·               Avoid distractions by all possible means.

·               While receiving information for the other person don’t distract yourself by thinking        of the next question to ask him/her

·               Do not dwell on one or two points at the expense of others

·               Don’t be quick to judge until you have heard everything.

Non – verbal (Action)

Non – Verbal communication is mostly Body Language or Body Movements:

Body movements include:

Gestures, Posture, Head and hand movement, Whole body movements

Body movements can be used to emphasize what a person is saying. It also gives information about the feelings and attitudes of a person.

But, sometimes it is possible for body movements to conflict with what the person is saying.

From Research it has being identified that different categories of body movement describe the purpose they commonly serve.

Examples:

Posture

·               Mirroring: Notice the way a loving couple relate to each other. You might like to observe a close relationship in person or on television. You will see that the partners' postures will match, as if one partner is a mirror reflection of the other. For example, if one partner drapes an arm over the back of a chair this might be replicated in the other person's position. If one partner frowns, it could be reflected in the other partner's facial expression. This 'mirroring' indicates interest and approval between people and serves to reassure others of interest in them and what they are saying.

Gestures

• Eye Contact: Eye contact is very important in non-verbal communication. Eye contact serves 3 main purposes in interpersonal interaction:

Ø  Giving and receiving feedbacks: Look at the person you’re talking to, so they will not be distracted. Not maintaining eye contact can indicate disinterest. Communication may not be a smooth process if a listener keeps turning at every slightest distraction.

Ø  To let a partner know when it is their 'turn' to speak: Eye contact is more likely to be continuous when someone is listening, rather than speaking. When a person has finished what they have to say, they will look directly at the other person and this gives a signal that the arena is open. If someone does not want to be interrupted, eye contact may be avoided, but listening should not be avoided.

Ø  Displays of emotions: These are facial expressions or gestures which show the emotions we feel. These are often unintentional and can conflict with what is being said. Such expressions give strong clues as to the true emotional state of a person.

·            Regulators: Gestures used for feedback when conversing are called regulators, examples: nodding of head, sounds like hmmmm! Oh! Ah! and expressions of interest or boredom.

·          Emblems: Gestures that serve the same function as a word are called emblems. Example, signals that mean 'YES’ ‘OK', 'Come here!' or ‘Sit down’

·               Posture: Posture can reflect people's emotions, attitudes and intentions.

Head and hand movement, Whole body movements

·               Adaptors: Non-verbal behaviours which either satisfy  some physical need such as scratching or adjusting uncomfortable glasses, or represent a psychological need such as biting fingernails when nervous.

·          Illustrators: Gestures which accompany words to illustrate a verbal message are known as illustrators. For example, the common circular hand movement which accompanies the phrase 'over and over again', or nodding the head in a particular direction when saying 'over there'.

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