PRE-MARITAL SEX (Part One)

PRE-MARITAL SEX (Part One)

I often receive calls from Ladies raining curses on the men that broke their heart, 40% threatens to kill them, 30% never want anything with a man ever again, 20% will accept things as they are and move on to make the same mistake, while only 10% learn from their mistake and never repeat them.

Premarital sex have become a norm in our society, but it is very wrong that young minds will have to be sexually active when they are not married. It pains me when a girl of 15 calls to ask what she should do to get her boyfriend back. And I usual must ask, what the hell are you doing in a relationship. And her answer will be I DON’T KNOW. Ok! So why are you having problems with him, and same answer, I DON’T KNOW. Ok! So when did he change suddenly, now this is usually the most interesting answer, Its started when I asked him why he is cheating on me, is it that am not satisfying him sexually anymore. Lord have mercy! At 15? My joy is they share their problems and listen when I talk to them about the implications of premarital sex.

Premarital sex should be a concern of all worthy people and should be frowned at. We must understand that Sex was ordained by God and He made it perfect. If He wanted everyone to be involve just like that He wouldn’t have said that It is not good that man should be alone;…

Reasons why most people get involve in premarital sex:

*  Wrong definition of Love

*  To be sure if the woman is fertile or capability of child-bearing.

*  To know if both parties are compatible in bed.

*  Lust over the flesh.

*  Lack of self-control.

These are just a few of many of the reasons.

You must also understand that there are many consequences of

premarital sex let look at a few of them:

1.      Premarital sex is the cause of some married couple’s problems. Why? It is because it generated suspicion, lack of trust on the man towards his wife in the absence of the woman or man suspicious became an intermediate state. This is because they have both tested it before marriage and feels any other person can access it too.

2.      It’s a stigma of disgrace on the woman’s part; the woman or the man is not conscience free more especially when pregnancy is evident. The two lack boldness amidst their peer-groups and neighbourhood.

3. The beauty of the woman prior to her marriage begins to wean in the mind of the husband after being married. The reason being that for the fact there was a premarital sex involved it brings doubt of infidelity on the man or woman. Now this is when some men go looking for “fresh blood” and even some women too.

Ladies you must understand that you suffer the most when you get involve with someone you’re not married to. Always remember these questions and let them be on your mirror.

·       Please when two people have sex, who gets pregnant BOY/GIRL?

·       If they choose the option of abortion of which most times that's the way it goes, who goes for the very painful abortion BOY/GIRL?

·       If there are complications and someone looses a womb please who loses a womb BOY/GIRL?

·       If they decided to keep the baby who drops out from school to have a baby BOY/GIRL?

·       In the case of stigma and someone is being referred to as ''after on'' who gets the stigma BOY/GIRL?

·       From all the happenings so far who do you think is most stupid BOY/GIRL?

·       Seriously, who ought to be wiser BOY/GIRL?

·       TO EVERY GIRL, LADY OR WOMAN,

·       PLEASE WISE UP AND CLOSE UP!

·       ITS BETTER TO PAY NOW AND PLAY LATER!

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