PURPOSE AND RELATIONSHIP: UNDERSTANDING THE CONNECTIVITY!

What is the danger of living in the midst of so many people who don’t have purpose in life? They water down the quality of life. They exalt mediocrity over originality. They go for anything, and just everything. They never have eyes for anything of value, but rubbish it when they come in contact with one, because they don’t see any value in their own lives. You see without purpose, you can’t find your own place in life, and so anything presents a place to you and you take it. Yesterday you were at the Holy Ghost Congress, and today you are in a strip club, and tomorrow you plan to drive 300 km with a married friend of yours to check the girl he is dating on a campus, and I just wonder how long you want to continue to live like that.

Finding your purpose in life is the easiest thing in the world. It has been en-grafted in you by your Maker. Finding your purpose is like finding the word CHARGE, but then finding its “meaning” is a different ball game entirely, because the word “charge”, like some words, have different meanings. When you say “Charge like a bull”, it means something different from “Charge with a Crime” or “Charge a bill” or even “Be in Charge”, yet they all use the same word “CHARGE”. Now that word is like your purpose, easy to find, but for it to make sense enough to communicate and convey its message clearly, we must find its exact meaning for that occasion, and only God can show you the meaning of your own purpose in life, but not without a walk with Him. That’s why I wonder why so many people think this God thing is just a choice we make, whereas it is a choice WE MUST MAKE, which is, to be in relationship with him for our own good. I am not surprised the Bible says “The fool in his heart says there is no God”. No wonder some of us are just not progressive with our lives. Now remember that the fool does not say “in his behavior” that there is no God, but “in his heart”, meaning a person may go to church all the time, and yet still say in his or her heart that there is no God, and that becomes obvious when you know them by their fruits, and not by their talents. It’s very unfortunate though that what we are concerned about in church these days is more about people’s talents than their fruits, whereas Jesus makes it clear that we shall know them by the FRUITS they bear.

If after we are able to find our purpose, we now chose to find the meaning of our purpose in life so we can take our own place, then we must not only find God, but have a sincere heart walk with Him. Jeremiah 10:23 in the Bible says “O Lord [pleads Jeremiah in the name of the people], I know that the determination of the way of a man is not in himself; it is not in man, even in a strong man or in a man at his best to direct his [own] steps”. Meaning, have all the talents, intelligence, wisdom, etc in the world, without the Lord directing your steps, it is all useless.

Now for those of you who have come into the year without purpose,find it and leave the life of mediocrity alone. And for those of you who want to find meaning to the purpose you have found, find God, you will be surprised that He is closer to you than you ever know.

It’s more important you do this, because God has given everyone 24 hours a day here on earth, and if used well, you can use 8 hours or more for your Career everyday, 8 hours for Relationships which includes God, your Spouse, fiance  and loved ones, and the rest of the 8 hours for Rest. Now if you haven’t used your first 8 hours which is for Career and Work well, which also builds your sense of significance to an extent, how can you transit into the next 8 hours of the day meaningfully? You find so many people who don’t have anything meaningfully in form of an occupation doing in their lives, and yet they want to get busy with relationships. My dear you have no value to add to anyone’s life, but liabilities. Even being a Housewife is a Full Time Job, and if Housewives are paid for being Housewives for taking care of the home, building up the children, and laying a family structure that always stands strong in the future, they will be one of the richest people in the world today. You have got to have a J.O. B if you want to be with me. I always encourage people who want to get married to settle their career first, before marriage, because it works hand in hand. Your career can always add value to the quality of the Marriage you end up having. I wish you all well.

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